Find the Diamonds in Your Own Back Yard | confidencenac

I read an article once that stated that the constant pursuit of happiness can make us miserable. ?The general idea was that we are not satisfied and always looking for more of everything, more shoes, more clothes, bigger cars and houses etc etc. Not only that, it continues, but happiness will be short lived and so we must then look to bigger and better things. This may be true of some, but I think these are the people who lack self esteem and think others are measuring them against their material possessions. They constantly compare themselves to others instead of measuring their own self development or they constantly measure happiness by using outside events, people or situations.

I think the author completely missed the point. Those that are truly happy inside, do not pursue more and more, but instead live a life of gratitude and contentment whilst giving to others (this in itself is a richly fulfilling experience).

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So are you Rich? I don?t mean in money terms but in real honest every day life terms. Do you love your job, friends, family, hobbies and most importantly yourself? (Did you complete my Life Evaluator a couple of posts back?)

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Being rich means feeling and being at your best, recognising the importance of goal setting and goal attainment, for it is more than useful to know what you want to do with your life and where you want to go.?Without a positive attitude you will find it difficult to achieve ?in life ? it will be your attitude that will determine your success.

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At this point I?d just like to say a bit about the direction that self improvement should come from. It is important to appreciate that winners do not improve their appearance or areas of their life because they feel inadequate. Instead, they come from the direction that they are already a fantastic person and they want to improve even further.

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When I first started coaching, many of my clients were in need of help, lacked confidence, direction and were de-motivated. Many of my clients still fit that criteria but coaching is now much better understood and, with that, I often see people now who are already successful but want to work on their performance and emotional intelligence as an ongoing priority. ?They may already be key persons of influence but understand that the world is changing and no job is secure. ?They are leaders and, in their world, performance coaching is a given.

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It?is important that you have a clear picture of how you would like others to see you and what type of person you would like to be.?The self image that you show to everyone is the external result of your internal self-esteem.

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In order for you to maximise your potential in life and feel rich, you must be able to put yourself into a position whereby you feel good about yourself so that you can radiate the confidence, energy and enthusiasm required to be a success. Otherwise, there will always be something that will be holding you back ? the effects of a low self-esteem.

It?s also important to recognise where you already shine ? you know, those things that you seem to do so well but where others struggle. The areas of your life where you feel so passionate that time flies and you are in the zone. Those of us, who enjoy our work to this level where it is totally effortless, are lucky but we may also have taken risks in order to get to that point. ?Going outside of your comfort zone and then succeeding is one of the biggest confidence boosters I know.

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If you can learn to love yourself, unconditionally, I believe it?s then that you will see the diamonds in your own back yard.

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